Finding Success Without Losing Your Self Identity


I have recently been going through a time of deep personal reflection and I feel that it is important for me to share some of my thoughts because I think there are many others out there going through similar things.

In my life, I was not always that go-getter who strived for much of anything past my own personal entertainment. I was a high school dropout who didn’t take the best care of myself. There was a point in my life when I realized that others’ views of me being somewhat lazy and unmotivated was not entirely incorrect. With that being said, it’s important to understand that each one of us has the ability to change the path we take in life. After acknowledging my shortcoming to myself, I realized that I desired more for my life. Although I didn’t know exactly what I wanted “more” of, I knew I was not only capable but worthy of success.

The past few years I have been searching for exactly where I fit in. Time and time again, I became overwhelmed with frustration. My frustration was a result of never feeling I was good enough at something. All my hard work and accomplishments still were not fulfilling the pieces of me that I thought it would. I could feel so close to finding “my place”, but my character was stuck in a cycle of feeling incomplete. Self-doubt started to feel like a normality.  I expected myself to find my place in the art community or the music community and so on. Although each individual journey left such a profound mark on who I am today, I never felt I had completely found my place.


After I started writing, everything was directing me to find my niche. Find one thing and stick to it that is the key to success. Know your target audience and build around that. Now don’t get me wrong, I think there is truth to these statements, but I battled with the idea of who do I want to be? What do I want to provide to the world? How do I choose one thing to conform myself to when I feel I have something to offer in an assortment of different areas?

Trying to mold me into the image of how others expect you to be was hurting me more than helping me. Why is it so hard to just pick something to do and go with it?

I think these ideas of success we have come to know, whether it be in your career, in school, or even emotional success are misdirected. I don’t think you need to find one path. We all have a wide range of talents that when used collectively, allow for fresh and innovative ways you can provide to this world. Some of the greatest discoveries and inventions in history had been discovered through mistakes that were made.

By letting go of what we think we should be doing and allowing ourselves the ability to remove self-doubt and rules, we open ourselves to infinite possibilities.

I realize now more than ever that believing in who I am and the things I have to offer to others is enough. There are more people who are similar to you in this world then we realize. My writings and the things I choose to provide to the world are all pieces of who I am.

So I guess what I am trying to say here is it is okay to be different. Trust wholeheartedly in yourself. If you do that and put in the work, success will come. If it does not come tomorrow, next week or next month, don’t give up. Be kind to yourself and believe!




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